Embracing pain is the antidote to suffering.
This is counterintuitive. Instinctively, human beings react to pain by moving "away.” We create buffers between ourselves and the experiences that cause discomfort.
The truth is, healing only occurs when we move authentically toward that which is hurting us, experiencing the truth of the pain, and learning to integrate this truth into our lives in a new way.
Once you stop protecting yourself, the loss, the abuse, the trauma – whatever the source of your pain is — becomes part of the fabric of your being. Because the pain is no longer separate from you, you are no longer compelled to react.
There is no such thing as pain in the past. If you have pain, no matter how long ago the experience, nor how deep, the result is a present pain. Either you are feeling pain now, or are suppressing it and acting out.
Let’s say you were abused in some way as a child. Abuse is often committed by someone not all that different from yourself. That is why it is not uncommon to conclude, however mistakenly, that you are the reason for the abuse. This creates a terrible conflict within you, which results in suffering. Avoiding the pain only creates more patterns of avoidance, which show up in every aspect of your life. But if you go toward the pain and experience the breadth and depth of your discomfort, you shift your relationship to your reality.
Pain does not go away. But it will not cause you to suffer anymore.
Your door will open to presence, authenticity, harmony and balance.
What is harmony and balance?
When you feel ordinary, when you have a sense of simple awareness, when you feel the need to be neither more nor less than who you are, when life appears to be coming from a state of grace, when anything is possible — then balance and harmony are fluctuating back and forth according to life’s flow. This is how we are designed; this is the way life is really meant to be.
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